Tuesday, March 6, 2012

top ten carnist phrases/excuses that drive me crazy

 Speaking of crazy, is it true that Melanie Joy is now being considered a "new welfarist" by some abolitionists after having written An Introduction to Carnism? I haven't read it myself yet, but that would seem like a stretch. Even if the main focus of animal use in her book is on eating meat, surely it's recognized that while she's dealing with one form of speciesism, she's not denying there are others? Anyway, Top Ten, take it away!

Top Ten Carnist Phrases Or Excuses That Drive Me Crazy:

10. "I respect your personal choice, so you have to respect mine."

 9.  "But what would happen to all the animals otherwise?" 

 8.  "It's not natural because you have to supplement with vitamin B12."

 7.  "The proof is in our teeth."

 6.  "Our brains wouldn't have gotten so big without meat."

 5.  "God said we could."

 4.  "But plants have feelings too!"

 3.  "If lions can kill gazelles..."

 2.  "top of the food chain"

 1.  "circle of life"

Obviously there are more than ten annoying excuses and phrases and no doubt you have your own favourites (let us know in the comments!), but the above ten seem to rankle me the most. Or at least, the quickest. The last two in particular really bother me because they're lazy clichés that folk frequently spew out to justify their habits so that they don't have to spend any real time contemplating why they do what they do.

For a complete dismantling of the above lame phrases and excuses (plus many more) check out Vegan Poet's comprehensive responses to typical comments so that you'll always know how to reply to those still not vegan yet. I'd do it myself, but I'm lazy too. ;)

Comments

Jill said...

Ack. Having trouble leaving a comment for some reason. Trying again...

I've been working on my own Top 10 Objections blog post for a while and am glad to see this one as it includes several that didn't make my list. B-12, Circle of Life, Brains? Uggggh. I've noticed that the ONLY time carnists don't come back at me with an excuse is after they have seen a video like Farm to Fridge, Earthlings or Meet Your Meat. The graphic images seem to bypass the rationalizing portions of their brains and go straight to their hearts. But I suppose once the "shock" wears off and they have a Taco Bell craving, those rationalizations might just bubble back up again. Depressing.
And for the record -- I think Melanie Joy is AMAZING. :-))

have gone vegan said in reply to Jill...

Have you read her Strategic Action for Animals yet? I just got it, and it looks like it'll be very good.

Looking forward to your Top 10 post! Sadly, I bet we could both come up with a top 25 even. Like you said, ugh. Maybe I'll have to put together a Top Ten Reasons to go Vegan list to cheer myself up -- or, since I bet a bunch of them have been done already, compile a list of the best of them! :)

veganelder said...

When I get the plants have feelings doodah I know I'm dealing with someone grasping for straws. :-)

have gone vegan said in reply to veganelder...

Yeah. It may be different if you're vegan already and feel you want to expand your compassion to plants as well, but usually this rationalization is done by non-vegans as an excuse to keep consuming what they do.

Krissa said...

I didn't come up with one to add to the list, but my mom said something once that is as close as we've come to having an argument about it (I've explained why I am the way I am and never really gotten any response). I was going through a pretty rough time and while I know she was trying to think of things to say and maybe steer my mind away from my problems, she raved about some chicken sandwich at some fast food place and said she realized I don't eat meat, "but if you ever have a weak moment".... So I wrote back and gently explained again why I am the way I am and that it truly isn't possible for me to have a weak moment in this particular area. We didn't have an argument about it and that was the end of that, but I was honestly surprised to hear that: "if you have a weak moment". I think a lot of people don't understand us at all. I think they don't realize this is something deep within us. So, this isn't really about an excuse-argument I've been confronted with, but it was surprising and depressing to hear.

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Weak moment, eh? Seems to me like meat-eaters have a continual series of weak moments, snort. But it sounds like your mom thinks of veganism as a diet, like my own mom does whenever she says, "Can't you have just a little bit?" Sigh.

Rebecca said in reply to Krissa...

Five and a half years as a vegan, and my mom has just recently (I think) given up the notion that I'm on "just another fad diet."

have gone vegan said in reply to Rebecca...

My mom STILL (after 7 years of being vegan) will say something to the effect of, "Maybe it's because of what you eat?" every single time I have any kind of physical ailment. And what kills me is that meat-eaters will almost never get asked this same question even though in their case it's that much more pertinent.

Beaelliott said...

I love these! Mine are all the same - Maybe in a different order.

And like VeganElder mentioned the "screaming carrots" always makes me wonder if I should continue the conversation (with an ignoramus) or... Are the plant-pain issue placed there simply to inflame? Either way - Face palm.

A variation of #9: The animals are already dead (Or) Going to die anyway. (sigh)

But - My favorite to respond to is #7 for a few reasons: I like reminding folks that humans have "cuspids" and nonhumans have canines. I also like to suggest that we try to evolve beyond our dentures. To paraphrase Colleen Patrick-Goudreau: "Do we really want to use the behavior/anatomy of the Neanderthals as the yardstick by which to measure our current moral choices?"

As far as Melanie Joy is concerned - A fantastic mind - And a lovely person! A true advocate I'm proud to have on our side of reason and compassion. A "carnist" mindset is not one that just allows the (single issue) of "food animal" use - But extends to the whole concept of "othering". Her theories are insightful, relevant and thought provoking. I don't agree with anyone who discredits her work. She's a tireless force of good for our side - ;)

have gone vegan said in reply to Beaelliott...

Thanks for your input, Bea -- it's always appreciated! Funny though, but when I came to the last paragraph I thought it could just as easily have read as follows:

As far as Bea Elliot is concerned - A fantastic mind - And a lovely person! A true advocate I'm proud to have on our side of reason and compassion. Her theories are insightful, relevant and thought provoking. I don't agree with anyone who discredits her work. She's a tireless force of good for our side - ;)

Keep on rocking, my friend! :)

ta said...

"But my body needs meat". Or howbout "It tastes too good to give up"

have gone vegan said in reply to ta...

Yep, those are good (and annoying) too. Thanks for contributing. And sorry it's taken me so long to respond. :(

JP said...

I just want to say thank you for this site. It really is good that this site exists. Without it, more people would think buying meat is okay, which would drive the prices up.

Thanks to the vegan movement, the price of delicious bacon is kept down, meaning I can have bacon for breakfast everyday of the week. I want to thank all vegans for keeping the price of meat down. Yes, bacon truly is great and delicious.

Though there is no comparison to veal. I especially enjoy having a pregnant cow give birth directly into my sizzling pan. The taste and texture of veal that has never walked a day in its life is truly amazing. And the placenta makes a good garnish, not to mention all the vitamins it has.

have gone vegan said in reply to JP...

I just want to say thank you for this comment. It really is good that it exists.

Without it, more people would think that animal-chomping folk just aren't aware of the cruelty they're committing.

Thanks to your comment though, it's clear that some carnists are just immature, thoughtless, selfish, heartless (brainless?) and ignorant jerks.

Thanks again.

Carnivore said...

I'll never be a weak minded veggitard. Meat is delicious and nutritious, blood is sweet and the flesh tender. You vegetarians are easily the weaker people if words offend you. So sad you mad but you can't convert me, I once tried a month of no meat and after a week I felt horrible, fatuiged and nausious. Eatting meat isnt a lifestyle or a public statement but essential to life. You call us brainless? I've eaten enough brains to not you're full of bullshit, the exact same bullshit that's in your kale shakes. If I could, I would eat one of every animal on this planet. Oh, and how dose it feel to be on the other side of the conversation with a pretentious fuck. Now that my rant is over I'm going to go and eat a delicious steak (medium rare) just to spite you.

Also plants make air breathable while livestock make methane that pollute it, so it seems that veggitards are the real bad guys. Save a plant eat a cow.

have gone vegan said in reply to Carnivore ...

Thank you for the comment Carnivore.

You're right that plants are healthy for the environment and that livestock is destructive, so wouldn't it make more sense to stop producing all those cows and pigs and chickens? Because as you said, all that methane. So thanks for supporting a vegan stance! :)

Also, if you were feeling fatigued and nauseous after a week, then it sounds like maybe you weren't doing it quite right or getting enough calories. Or perhaps your body was still trying to get rid of noxious toxins? Next time, choose from beans, lentils, peas, nuts, peanut butter, spinach, brown rice, barley, broccoli, quinoa, tofu or soymilk, whole grain bread, pasta, sunflower seeds, avocado, etc., etc., (the list of non-animal protein is practically endless), and you'll do just fine. I mean, if vegan bodybuilders can do it, so can you. Good luck!

Rebecca said in reply to Carnivore ...

Why is it that whenever people rant about how meat makes them smart, they misspell every other word?

David said...

Annoying is that your little bitch ass thinks you're above anybody else for living however the fuck they want. So you're a faggot ass vegan? So the fuck what? Grow up, nobody gives a fuck. What's even more pathetic about your shitty little list is how you're going about attempting to convert people. Mind your own business, dickhead mother fucker.

have gone vegan said in reply to David...

Seriously, David? Okay, you know how to swear, I'll give you that. But please, PLEASE, don't make me think that carnists as a whole are truly stupid on top of everything else, because I'm sure that's not the case. Right?

Krissa said in reply to have gone vegan...

David is clearly a troll. It would be interesting to know how they found this post....trolling maybe?

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Who knows, eh?

Desertwind said...

In regards to #10:

Yes, that would be called mutual respect. What's so wrong with that? Why does that annoy you?

have gone vegan said in reply to Desertwind...

Hi Desertwind, thank you for asking so that I can clarify.

That particular response is one vegans hear an awful lot, and unfortunately is usually said as a way to shut down a conversation that often hasn't even begun. It's also a way of dismissing concern and responsibility for how we treat other animals.

One of the things most frustrating to many vegans though is that the choice to use or not use animals is presented as if it were a personal choice only, instead of a personal AND political AND cultural choice with dire consequences for the animals involved.

It also tends to be presented as if the two choices are morally equivalent, when in fact one of those choices leads to untold cruelty, misery and death. So you can't really give equal weight to those two choices and say that morally they're of similar value. In other words, I (and most vegans) find it really hard to respect a choice that leads to so much needless violence and death.

Hope that helps. Thanks again for asking.

anynomous said...

Other things that are not really arguments but attempts to dismiss my credibility are: ''You're just brainwashed because you spend too much time on the internet and have too much time on your hands to think about these things'',''veganism is a cult, you're too obsessed'' and the common ''there is other problems to care about like human exploitation, you can't be perfect'' and also ''what about humans''. All from my mother. ugh.

have gone vegan said in reply to anynomous...

Ah yes, the old cult, brainwashing, and 'but what about people?' lines. Sorry you have to deal with that. I wouldn't be surprised if some of my family members actually feel the same way, but they probably know better than to verbalize it out loud, snort.

Thanks for contributing. Appreciate it. :)

Monday, July 25, 2011

the paradox of being vegan part 3

 Note: the paradoxes of being vegan that I discuss in this and subsequent posts are my own personal observations, and not necessarily universally applicable to all vegans

And if you haven't read paradoxes 1 or 2 yet (or have forgotten already because I wrote them so long ago), I'll link to them below.

Paradox #3:

  • Being vegan has changed me completely
  • Being vegan hasn't changed me at all

When I say that being vegan has changed me completely I don't just mean what I eat, wear, enjoy for entertainment and consume in other ways (although it includes all of that), but more that it has changed my mindset, my worldview, and my values. It has opened my heart (significant for someone who prefers logic and thinking) in a way that nothing else has, and it's increased my ability to feel compassion and empathy. And in an odd way, caring more about all living animals has allowed me to care more about human animals too. I'm a better person for being vegan and I'm thankful that I took the leap.

At the same time though, being vegan hasn't changed me one iota. In fact, it's probably just reinforced who I really am. Being vegan hasn't made me more patient, hasn't eradicated my quick temper, hasn't made me less reactive, and hasn't smoothed out the rough edges. I'm still quick to judge, am prone to snarkiness, love to come up with new ideas but am not great on follow-up (case in point being all the post topics I have thought up and promised but have yet to deliver, e.g., paradoxes 3, 4, and 5 were conceptualized eons ago), and I still feel like smacking people in the face for being such jackasses half the time even though I usually endorse a gentler approach.

What I think veganism does is magnify who you really are. It brings out your best and worst traits, illuminates whatever charming or not so charming personality quirks you possess, and brings to the fore your true values. In a sense, being vegan is a litmus test. Or maybe I'm just full of it? At any rate, being vegan gives you the wonderful opportunity to use your skills, interests and the unique qualities that make you YOU for the betterment of all, and that my friend, is quite cool.

Need to catch up with the other paradoxes? Here you go:

Paradox #2: as a vegan I've never been more at peace/more pissed off
Paradox #1: being vegan is easy/being vegan is hard

Comments

Krissa said...

Yay! Another paradox! I love these! :) ... I'm not sure if I'll ever know for sure, but nothing about me is 100% the same since I have been vegan. The thing is, I became vegan in the middle of some HUGE life changes....moving to a country where I didn't know the language (and still have times where I don't understand or people don't understand me); living through the highest stress living environments I've ever lived through and having mental/emotional breakdowns that were probably serious enough at times to have qualified me for a hospital stay if I'd gone for professional help; a spiritual awakening that keeps coming in increments...the list goes on and on. And if I'd have stayed in my home environment, I do think eventually I'd have become vegan, but I'm not sure that I would have changed as much as I have. I see the world entirely differently, but I'm not sure it's from becoming vegan. That is the most IMPORTANT thing/change that has happened to me. But I, me personally, am very different from the person I was just a few years ago. There's been times in the past year where, had it been the "old" me, I really would have gotten into altercations...but I'm different now. And I guess I'll never know how much of that is simply from becoming vegan. But I think that most vegans probably really can honestly say "being vegan has changed me completely, and, being vegan hasn't changed me at all". I guess I took the long way of saying that it might depend on the circumstances in which we become vegan how much it changes us. Does that make sense? Probably not - my head is spinning as I type this! Snort! ... Yay again for paradoxes! These are really great posts!

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Thanks Krissa! I've enjoyed writing the paradox posts, so am glad you like them too. And the first part of your comment kind of presented a paradox for us to ponder as well, snort.

It's always/never a good time to go vegan.
Meaning of course that while circumstances may be influential, waiting to go vegan until ALL the circumstances are right will likely never happen, so go vegan even when your life is messy! :)

Krissa said in reply to have gone vegan...

And you know what, from a health aspect, the diet part of being vegan has likely helped more than I can ever know. Extreme chronic stress has serious inflammatory and plenty of other effects on our bodies. The vegan "diet" is anti-inflammatory and builds the immune system. And if anyone demands proof of that I can only say "try it for yourself". The appearance of your skin alone will show the health on the inside. ... I do think my circumstances are very unusual and I have a feeling that I wouldn't have changed a bit either had I stayed where I was and become vegan. But I kind of like to think that maybe your idea that being vegan brings out who you really are is right. ;) That means I'm NOT a hot head!!!! Ha ha! Seriously though, I really do enjoy the paradox posts. Keep 'em coming!

Krissa said in reply to Krissa...

P.S. as long as one doesn't hurt anyone who doesn't deserve it, there's nothing wrong with being a hot head. It kind of hurts the "hot head" most anyway. I don't have any problems with vegans who are angry. I was beyond angry, so far beyond there might not be a word for it, for a long time after becoming vegan. Anyway, of course I didn't make it through the comments without having to add a P.S.. I was so close! :)

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Hey, you can p.s. all you like, Krissa. I mean, it's better than b.s., right? Snort. Yeah, I think being vegan is the healthier (if not healthiest) way to go, and I'm all for vegan plurality -- we need hot heads AND peaceniks! :)

Debbie said...

Great post! I love the other two paradoxes also. I’m not sure that being vegan has brought out more of my bad qualities but I do believe it has reminded me to pay more attention to how I want to live which has helped to enhance my good qualities. For me the biggest paradox is one you mentioned earlier about being more at peace but at the same time angrier. Sometimes I wonder if I should be feeling so much better as a vegan. I now know more about how animals are treated and some days I feel a little guilty that I do feel so much better and my life is so much richer while I am now aware of all those who have lives of nothing but suffering. But then again, if I was angry all the time I wouldn’t exactly inspire anyone else to try veganism would I?

have gone vegan said in reply to Debbie...

Thanks so much, Debbie! I think one of the other positive aspects of being vegan is that it has the potential to make you more mindful, and thus, bring out more good qualities. You're right though about vegan guilt -- it seems to be part of the package deal unfortunately. Anger too, but as you said, anger isn't exactly inspiring for those we want to influence!

Jena said...

Love these paradox posts! It's pretty wild when you look at some of the issues from both ends of the spectrum. I think these are very real observations that vegans everywhere experience all the time - I know they really strike a chord with me. Thanks for sharing!

have gone vegan said in reply to Jena...

Thank you Jena! Lovely to see you here. Glad the posts struck a chord. I guess it's true when they say you should write about what's particular to you, as that often ends up being (paradoxically almost, ha ha!) universal too. Thanks again.

Bea V Elliott said...

"What I think veganism does is magnify who you really are." Brilliant observation! For me I've never felt more authentic. It was like as if the hidden unchallenged "secrets" inside my head, soul and heart made "me" less me. It masked something without my even knowing it!

Will Tuttle's theories about living in our meat culture crystallized most of this for me... But that "magnifying who you really are" is the whole truth in a super-easy concept to embrace.

And at the time, for me it seemed like everything "clicked" in one moment when I got "animal rights". It was an "ah-ha! Eureka!" moment that immediately made sense to me... It *was* me - Or at least the discovery of what was missing. Can't say I haven't learned bunches since... Or re-aligned many views on tactics and goal setting - But the essential core is always there: I am more me now, then ever!

And I certainly will add this post (and this series) as another of those "ah-ha!" moments as well. Thanks for the experience and opportunity to self examine... and to listen to others do the same. You're a-okay have gone vegan! ;)

have gone vegan said in reply to Bea V Elliott...

Aw, thanks Bea. I appreciate your comments on the other parts too!

I really do need to read The World Peace Diet (along with so many other books!), as I'm sure even more things will click into place. I like the idea of veganism completing you -- move over, Tom Cruise, snort. But certainly I think veganism illuminates a LOT of things. And once you know/see certain things, you can't ever unsee them!

Glad I could be of ah-ha usefulness. You're a-okay in my book too kiddo! :)

Rhea said...

Reading all 3 parts of your paradox series is like holding up a mirror. I agree with all of it!! Very eloquently written. Thank you.

have gone vegan said in reply to Rhea...

And thank you, Rhea! Your kind words mean a lot to me. Thanks so much.

veganelder said...

I can only say moving to living as a vegan felt like coming home. I knew this was the only way to live when I was a child, I didn't know the word for it...I just knew it was wrong to hurt animals. I succumbed to the lies of the world and hid that knowing from myself for many years, I recovered enough to live vegetarian for a couple of decades later on in my life and finally found all of me again after seeing Meet Your Meat. It was a painful and sorrowful reunion, recognizing all the harm I had done, for all those years, when I knew differently. So I guess I'm saying becoming vegan didn't change me, it returned me to being myself...and exposed the vicious things I had collaborated in because I had lost myself. So, a sad and sorrowful thing but...a happy thing to finally come home.

have gone vegan said in reply to veganelder...

Coming home is an excellent way to put it! As is "...becoming vegan didn't change me, it returned me to being myself..." I bet that feels true for a lot of vegans. Thank you for sharing that insight veganelder! And for being one of my vegan pals. :)