Tuesday, September 15, 2015

the power of one, vegan style

 While the thought of trying to make the world go vegan can be as daunting as trying to imagine world peace (although as veganelder pointed out in my last post, the term "human society" is usually more accurate than world), it can be more manageable when broken down into bits. And while there's no magic formula or easy 7-step process (this world would have become vegan already if there were), we too quickly forget about the power of one. Because the power of one multiplied exponentially can bring about change in ways we can't even possibly foresee. Who would have thought, for example, that a lone image of a deceased boy on a beach could be such a rallying point in the current refugee crisis?

What does the power of one look like? It can be:

  • one pamphlet or book that finally opens someone's eyes
  • one video or documentary that really hits home
  • one blog post that inspires
  • one image that galvanizes collective outrage
  • one muffin or meal that makes someone realize animal parts aren't needed
  • one day powerful enough to scare the ag industry silly e.g. Meatless Monday 
  • one consumer product popular enough to cause lawsuits e.g. Just Mayo
  • one mentor or role model
  • one animal's world that has completely changed by being rescued
  • one animal celebrity -- need I mention Esther? ;)
  • one sanctuary
  • one step in the right direction
  • One Step for Animals
  • one reason to either go or stay vegan
  • one task
  • one role
  • one idea
  • one thing
  • one change
  • one person

Edward everett hale

What can YOU do? That's up to you. There's lots of choice and enough to do, so pick what suits you. Pick what you love or what you're good at (often the same thing), because sticking to something and being able to do it over the long haul helps everyone. Keep in mind also that one thing isn't the same as a scattered or frantic do something, do anything approach, but a strategic focus that when multiplied can have real results. Reread pattrice jones' inspiring blog post Effective Activism, peruse 100 Ways to Change the World for Animals Part 1 and Part 2 from OHH, and:

Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And go do that. Because the world needs people who've come alive. -- Howard Thurman, American theologian and civil rights leader

One person

Finally, remember that if nothing else, act as if what you do can make a difference, because it CAN and it DOES.

Comments

Krissa said...

The Edward Hale quote is my favorite quote of all quotes! And I learned it on your site years ago. :)

Any time one of us human people gives another being the chance to have their voice heard, their face seen, their emotions become real and tangible...it makes a difference. And as you know, someone like Esther really can make a difference. Because of her, her guardian-dads became vegan....and now look at how many lives she's touched. So yep, one can make a difference and thanks to you and others who blog, are activists in any way...the voices of our non-human friends get heard. One at a time...

Nice post! :) Hope things are going ok lately.

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Thanks Krissa, hey did you notice the differences between the quote in the pic and the quote on top? I thought it was interesting, so featured the one I hadn't seen before. :)

1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + who knows how many 1s
= who knows what magical results!

Krissa said...

I actually like the one you've had on your site the whole time and it's also the one I've seen referenced in other places. But the one in this post is just as "good" (not sure that's the right word) and although means the same thing, seems more toned down (again, not sure that's the right phrase). But yep, this is my very favorite quote. It's actually more a philosophy than a quote, eh? And a darn good one! :)

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Yeah, I prefer that one too, it just flows off the tongue a little easier. And yes, a good philosophy it is!

sharon said...

thank you have gone vegan... a great post, especially for those of us suffering 'fatigue', not coping and feeling as though all is hopeless...

have gone vegan said in reply to sharon...

Thanks for the feedback Sharon. I'm glad the post was helpful. :)

veganelder said...

Your post brought to mind a book by Anne Lamont titled "Bird by Bird". The title came from her father's advice to her brother about writing a report on birds wherein he told him to do it "bird by bird". (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12543.Bird_by_Bird)

The power of one...great post. Thank you.

p.s.: The last two items on the list have intrigued me for years...it's always seemed to me that if each person who is vegan managed to help transition just one other person (and that person did the same) then vegans would be all over the place fairly quickly. I wonder.

have gone vegan said in reply to veganelder...

Thanks veganelder. Love Bird by Bird! Still one of the best books on writing, along with Brenda Ueland's If You Want to Write -- time to reread both methinks. Have never had any interest in writing a novel, but would love to birth a non-fiction book someday...

Yes, one change and one person. Not sure how the math would work (in terms of vegans multiplying), but I like to think that one day there will be a tipping point, some event of some kind that will really speed things along. Let's hope! :)

Hi Friend,
Ah yes, the power of one. I am vegan because of my daughter who is vegan, my grandchildren are being raised vegan,my husband is now vegan and I like to think that my website helps to clarify for those who are vegan, what it means to be so and for those who aren't what a gift to all beings veganism is. Every time anyone of us goes out there in human society and requests a plant based meal, we are participating planting seeds and participating in harm reduction. Every time one of us tells sales people that we do not use any product that came from the a once living being,we are spreading the word. Every time we participate in a vigil, a demonstration a march, we are challenging non vegans to review their ethics.
I have to believe what we do make a difference. I don't know how to do otherwise. The truth is, the more I write and the more I advocate, the more I understand what else I can do effectively to advocate for all species who need our help.
Thank you for an illuminating and encouraging article.
Take care,
Anne

Thank you Anne. Great additional examples as well. I figured the list was likely incomplete, but knew that readers would help fill the gaps. :)

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

privilege continued AND what privilege really means

 Because if you don't see how seemingly different types of oppression are similar and interconnected (that is, the roots are the same but the affected party may be different), then you won't be as effective in whatever advocacy work you're doing.

The above is part of a comment I left on a previous privilege post back in January, and is something that has fascinated me for a long time. That is, how folk can recognize their own particular form of oppression well enough, yet be seemingly privilege-blind when it comes to other forms. Before I continue though, I found an excellent article recently on what privilege really means, which I would encourage you to read because privilege by its very essence can be so damn hard to see, especially when we're the ones reaping its benefits.

(pausing while you finish reading)

While it may be tempting to think that once we recognize one form of oppression all the other ones are instantly easier to see, unfortunately, that's not the case. While some well-meaning vegans, for example, have been quick to point out that "all lives matter" when they see #BlackLivesMatter, do we really have the right to do this if we don't understand white privilege better, and recognize how we're complicit in a racist system? And how do you deal with or prioritize multiple oppressions when all of them have an impact? 

Privilege and oppression can seem almost limitless, and perhaps they are. Are we all endowed with privilege blinders? I'm beginning to think so. Let me illustrate with a few more examples. One of the first labels I adopted and still wear is that of feminist. Considered a dirty and threatening word by far too many, feminism as its basic goal seeks gender equality. That's it in a nutshell. So why every single person isn't in favour of this concept baffles me. Wouldn't allowing everyone to be their true selves instead of conforming to rigid and outdated gender stereotypes be a win-win for all? (I'm not being naive here, as I realize that many individuals and institutions benefit greatly from inequality despite its high price.)

And while you would think that those who identify as feminist would seek equality for all women, this isn't always the case. Women of colour have often argued that feminism doesn't include them. Same for those who aren't middle or upper class. Some women who are sex workers say that feminists too often portray all of them as victimized prostitutes, rather than women who are choosing how they earn their income. There are also those who dispute that all pornography is automatically bad or demeaning. They would argue that it is sexism, not sex that should be demonized, and some feminists are making their own pornography. Then there are feminists who are accused of being transphobic, a claim that's difficult to refute when some of them insist that only women-born-women qualify as real women, and that only they should be granted access to women's and feminist spaces. 

Another group that vegans often lament for not seeing the oppression of other animals are members of the LGBT community. And it IS frustrating when folk who legitimately fight for the ending of oppression based on sexual orientation don't feel there's anything wrong with oppressing beings who happen not to be born human, even though they have desires and relationships just like we do. But is it that surprising? Because you would think that those who are discriminated against because of orientation are more likely to support all other orientations. Not always.

While it may be better now, there was a time when identifying as bisexual would get you a lot more flak from those who didn't identify as straight, as from those who did. And while neither group particularly liked "fence sitters", it wasn't heterosexuals who were more committed to kicking you off. But even today biphobia is alive and well. How many bisexual characters are there on TV? How many have there ever been? And how many of those characters are misidentified, like Piper (on Orange Is The New Black) who's called ex-lesbian instead of bi? Notice also how most people think almost exclusively in terms of gay or straight, male or female, black or white. We're addicted to binary thinking, and don't seem to like anything in between. Gosh, how many times haven't you heard the phrase, you're either vegan, or you're not? ;)

As you can see, privilege and oppression are not simple at all. Certainly not as simple to understand and combat as just using words like sexism, racism and speciesism. And while everyone is likely marginalized in some way, please do realize your privilege if you can put check marks in front of white, straight, middle-class, cis (those who identify as the gender they were assigned at birth) or male. Just sayin'.

Comments

Krissa said...

Before I even read this entire post or the linked article, I'm going to throw this out there now. It is my first reaction. And I'll comment again after reading...maybe there will be a change in my perception, but I want to get this out there with no influence...

To me privilege means that an individual or group (of any kind) receives special benefits unavailable to others, has opportunities unavailable to others, receives love/respect/pretty much anything positive at a rate above others...for no reason that they earned themselves. For absolutely no reason other than being born into a situation that says "you're privileged...you have more worth, more rights and more value than others". That is of course a lie, but somehow it is upheld over and over. The most obscene privilege and the one I care about is human privilege over every other living thing. I do care about oppressed human beings, but nowhere near on the level I do about other species because by some genetic chance we were born human and got way more than our share because of it. And all of us, even the well intentioned benefit from it and perpetuate it.

But yes, you are so right that it ties in all together and the key to getting our fellow humans to even begin to see it in its proper context (privilege and how it affects non-humans) they first have to understand it as it applies to themselves. Most of us, anyway.

Ok, I will read the article and the rest of this post, but I wanted to put this out there without any other thoughts in my head..(not much in there at the moment as it is because of things you know about and the darn heat here)

Back asap and glad you are able to post again already!

Krissa said...

Ok, part 2. Snort! ... The post you linked to was well-thought out and well-presented and your post is excellent, too! There's not much I can add to it, privilege is either a concept that one "gets" or you doesn't and it's also one that clearly is either cared about or not.

There is no easy solution until human beings' perception is so entirely changed that we'd have to start calling ourselves something else at that point. Even if there were another Russian or French Revolution, so to speak, there's still privilege even when it comes to gender, sexual orientation and all the things you mentioned. Sigh. I actually have apologized to, well for example, my cow friend that you so thoughtfully feature on your site, so many of my fellow beings that they don't have even the basic rights that I do simply because they were unfortunate enough to not be born human. I'm glad and grateful to know that there are other human beings out there who feel the same love and respect for our fellow creatures as equals the same as I do. There aren't enough of us, but thank goodness for the ones there are.

The positive side of privilege is that I have had the privilege of being loved and accepted by so many different individuals of other species in my life and the privilege of knowing fine vegan folk like yourself! :) (big toothy smile!).

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Hey Krissa, thank you for your comments, and sorry for the late reply. Yes, getting to know other vegans, and other fellow mortals (thanks Anne, for introducing me to this term) is a plus indeed! :)

Privilege is a tough one, isn't it. Hard to see (especially how it applies to oneself), hard to understand at times, hard to combat, and hard to let go of. I'm beginning to think that asking other people to go vegan (just read an interesting point by someone who doesn't like that term because it still places the emphasis on humans, so they prefer the term animal liberationist instead) is even more difficult than we realize, because essentially we're asking them to give up power over others. Power over all other sentient beings, regardless of species, gender, race, class, etc.

I mean, asking folk to stop being cruel is one thing, but giving up power? I dunno. Maybe that's why vegans and animal rights activists are still such a minority. Will we ever go beyond a paltry 2% of the population? And can you tell I'm in a pessimistic (partially heat-induced) mood at the moment? Snort.

I really really don't have the answers. Just trying to figure out the right questions...

veganelder said...

I thought had put in a comment...I guess the internet ate it. I wonder if there's some electronic warehouse somewhere that retains all that is lost like that?

Privilege...slippery stuff...I think the slipperiness is a big part of the power of it. Reading your comment, HGV, re giving up power is intriguing cuz I'm thinking that's where the action is...with the power stuff. Do you have a link for the writing about that? Racism is all about power...outside of the personal a**holiness. If someone wants to be an a**hole...go for it...the trouble starts when you combine that with power. Privilege is essentially a perk attained because of the exercise of power...isn't it?

have gone vegan said in reply to veganelder...

Oh no! Sorry about that. I get email notifications of comments, and have double-checked just in case, but yeah, the comment-eating machine must have gotten to it right away. So annoying!

Don't have anything to link to at the moment re: giving up power (it was more something I've been thinking about in conjunction with my own control issues), but when I get the chance I'll see if I can find something.

Your last statement though gave me pause when I first read it, and I've been mulling ever since whether giving up power is even possible. Maybe in part because so often privilege is something we're born with (e.g. white skin, able-bodiedness), and we don't even have to do anything active like the word attained suggests -- I realize you likely didn't mean it that way, but that's how my brain interpreted it. I mean, what I'm saying is that we don't even have to exercise power in again, an active sense, to enjoy privilege. It's just there. So to give up power that we haven't earned, haven't had to do anything to attain, is probably even more difficult and unlikely.

Maybe wanting to have power is innate? Newborn babies struggle for power to get their nourishment/nurturing/developmental needs met from the get-go, and that only continues as they get older. I truly don't know. But it does seem that voluntarily giving up power over others (all others) is more likely to happen if one is fairly grounded, mature, and emotionally healthy. Perhaps even self-actualized to use a Maslovian term.

You've done it again veganelder. I thought I knew what I was talking about, and now I have to rethink. But I love that! So thank you. :)

veganelder said...

Sorry I wasn't more specific re the "power" thingee. There are different types of power and our culture acts as if there is only one type..."power over" because that's what keeps the wheels of oppression turning.

(the attained was referencing the fact that at some point someone exercised power over to set up systems of privilege)

You might enjoy looking at this essay re "power over" versus "power with". My bad for not being more specific.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/robert-koehler/power-with-power-over_b_312935.html

have gone vegan said in reply to veganelder...

Thanks for the link. I DID enjoy it. :)

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

would we call women non-male humans?

 Of course not. It not only sounds ridiculous, it IS ridiculous. But that's how I often feel about the term non-human animals too, even though I understand why it's used, and use it on occasion myself. So this post is about how we name the beings we care about and fight for, because after seven years of being vegan it's something I still haven't been able to resolve. Obviously I'm not alone in this what-to-name-other-animals quandary, as the more-than-qualified Vegan Feminist Agitator herself wrote a brilliant post on this very topic not so long ago. And I considered linking to her post and leaving it at that because I really don't want to repeat her many good points, but, my need to muddle through this in writing with you in the hopes of finally solving this maddening linguistic conundrum proved to be stronger. Ready?

So, what do we (what do you?) call other animals when you're trying to convey that humans are animals too? Because sadly, we often forget or even actively squash our own animalness when trying to differentiate ourselves. Specifically, how do you refer to other beings who* are animals but not human animals? And how can we do this without implying that human animals are somehow superior, or the norm? Because as we know, naming is crucial in how we identify and interact with others. Naming is not neutral, is not objective, but determines from the outset how something or someone (or whether something is in fact someone) will be treated.
[* Spelling and grammar check suggested who should be that. Naturally I disagreed.] 

The problem of course with the term "non-male humans" is that it posits male humans as the norm and places female humans in the category of Other. (Now I would argue that in practice we still act as if women deviate from the norm, but at least our language reflects an ideal of treating men and women as equals.) Unfortunately, the term "non-human animals" does the same thing (in this case positing human animals as the norm), except that it doesn't sound as ludicrous. Perhaps this is because we're so used to the term, or because speciesism is ingrained enough that even vegans haven't quite outgrown our outmoded language.

Back to the question: How do we refer to other animals?

  • animals
  • non-human animals
  • humans and other animals
  • other animals 
  • beings
  • other beings
  • sentient beings
  • earthlings
  • insert your term here

Of those eight terms I try to avoid using animals as much as possible because for most folk that word excludes humans. I also try (but often fail) to avoid non-human animals for the reasons discussed above. Humans and other animals is a bit cumbersome so I tend to shorten it to other animals. I like sentient beings quite a lot, and will often use that, in addition to beings or other beings. The only term that I haven't really used even though I see it a fair bit is earthlings, not because I don't think it appropriate, but because for some odd reason (maybe I've read or watched too much sci-fi?) the word always makes me think of Martians. And I mean always, snort. 

Sadly, I slip and sometimes find myself using animals (see how ubiquitous animal use really is?) when I don't actually mean to, so I wish I could settle on one term once and for all. One term that is clear, compact, and sounds just right.

What about you? How have you solved the problem of what to call those not called Maria? ;) 

Comments

Krissa said...

I sometimes use terms like "living souls", "living beings", "our fellow creatures" and things like that. And I do say "other animals", too. I'm not in communication with a lot of people so it doesn't always come up. It comes up in comments on blogs or on petitions. The whole thing about names is very frustrating too because, as we've mentioned before, not all of us feel fond of the term vegan either. One of the things that really makes me mad is reading comments sections in news stories and seeing things written about heinous criminals like "he's an animal", "he's no better than an animal", "dogs don't even do that"....things like that. Because, really???? I've spent a vast amount of time in my 46 years with humans, with dogs, with cats, with birds and not as much, but also a lot of time with many other species (I also use species a lot, I guess) and I'll tell you what...human beings have zero reason to claim superiority. I love my family and friends and I know there are good folks out there, but as a whole, our species is the only vicious one. And the only ignorant one, too. "Other animals" are never dishonest, they show compassion and love and appreciation and often even to the human beings who don't deserve it. In fact, they show all of the good qualities that humanity likes to bestow on itself and then get those "he's an animal" comments....it's sad and wrong.

It's very important to fix this language problem, but seems like one of the ones that is very far out of control. I think I wrote before that in the German language, they don't even use the same VERBS for things like when a human eats compared to when an "animal" eats. And they are normally called "it" instead of he or she. I've noticed that he/she/it changed a bit, but only a very little. And since I've rambled so much already I'll spare the anecdotes about certain communities I've been exposed to here who I am pretty sure think of women and girls as "non-male humans". Not pretty sure, just, sure.

Well, sorry for the rambling. I had another really tough week and am not capable to express myself as clearly as I wish.

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Hi Krissa, au contraire, I think you expressed yourself quite well. And clearly. :)

Ah, you've jogged my memory! I too use "fellow creatures", "living beings" and "other species" a fair bit. They just didn't pop into my head while I was writing the post.

Oh, and those "he's no better than an animal" type comments make my blood boil too. In fact, (let me go check -- yep, it's on there) I have that very topic on my long list of things to post about, so won't go into too much detail here other than to say what you and I already know (and every other rational person should as well) -- that the very opposite is often true.

Hope this coming week is better for you! :)

Krissa said in reply to have gone vegan...

Ah, great minds, eh? :) I'm looking forward to that post you mention and I'm glad I didn't ramble as much as I thought I had. The "funny" thing is, for those of us who don't really see an inner difference between ourselves and other species, this whole language thing wouldn't be a problem. But because of the way human beings somehow manage to dominate this planet and the fact that human language is such a ...looking for the right word, not finding it, but it truly does perpetuate wrong thinking/actions (human beings' superiority complex and all the things that happen as a result), it is a very big problem. You do an excellent job of addressing these issues. My next thought in this stream of thought was going to be that as humans we see each other visually and do recognize other races and cultures, but that isn't a problem for every human...of course we all see "color", but we don't all "See" color. Ok, well now I think I did muddle it all up (snort!).

It's a fact that the spoken/written word is a wonderful thing and no species would survive without them. Because yep, "non-human animals" write in their own way too, as you and most of your readers know. Why is it that our species dominates everything and yet the majority of us can't speak or read the languages of our fellow creatures (or even think to try)....but they all clearly do understand ours?

Heat wave got started yesterday here and is about to go full blast starting today. :( So, this week isn't going to be much better in that way, but thanks for the well wishes and I'm hanging in there. Hope all's well there with you, too!

have gone vegan said in reply to Krissa...

Ha ha, muddle away! Double snort.

Good point about how other animals understand us well enough, but we seem (well, most of us) to have great difficulty understanding them. Reminds me of something I read somewhere (wish I could remember the specifics) where someone was astute enough to gently chastise folk for using the expression (or variations thereof) "giving voice to the voiceless", and accurately stating that other beings voice their concerns well enough (a scream of pain is pretty easy to understand regardless of species), but that most humans just don't want to listen. :(

Sorry about the heat wave. Ours ended earlier this week, so it's nice to have that reprieve. Hard to believe summer is slowly coasting towards the end though!

veganelder said...

I smiled when I saw this post...one reason was because I too go all over the place in trying to reference beings who aren't me and who don't belong to my species and also because I started reading a book recently that smacked me on the head about some possible reasons why this referring to "others" is such a dilemma at times. The book is titled: "Speaking Freely: Unlearning the Lies of the Fathers' Tongues" by Julia Penelope who was a linguist.

In the book she tackles the invisible and usually unacknowledged fact that english was a language constructed mostly by white men and many elements of english were put in place to implement and enforce patriarchy and hierarchy and and and. It just may be that part of the problem of trying to figure out how to use english words to describe and think about things has not so much to do with our inadequacies of conceptualizing and understanding but rather to do with the built in biases and structures and word constructions of english itself. These biases obviously can and do exist in other languages also...I would suspect the more the language is male dominated the more difficulty there is in expressing ones self without engaging in hierarchical and/or oppressive structuring.

Audre Lorde wisely observed that you can't dismantle the master's house with the master's tools...Julia Penelope did a great thing by trying to point out that the english language itself is one of the master's tools.

I got so excited when I started reading the book that I jumped on a used book site and bought myself a copy because I wanted to highlight and underline parts of it. I haven't read the whole book yet...but just the realization that "otherness" and hierarchy and patriarchy is built into the english language was so liberating that I'm still smiling about all of it.

The flim-flams and confusings that perpetuate oppression are deep and wide and ubiquitous and part of it...just maybe has to do with the fact that we try to talk about it and understand it with language tools that were devised and maintained and enforced by oppressors themselves.

Saying all this to say...it might be useful to expand the area of consideration when trying to figure out how to use words for expressing ourselves to include the often overlooked fact that english (and many other languages) were way over influenced and controlled by males to the exclusion and/or the domination of "others".

You can read a little about Dr. Penelope here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Julia_Penelope

have gone vegan said in reply to veganelder...

Hey veganelder, I'm finally back. Dr. Penelope's book sounds interesting, so thanks for the recommendation and link. I've added it to my wish list. :)

Have you read either of the two books by Joan Dunayer? Her first one, Animal Equality (2001), dealt with how language perpetuates speciesism, and she followed that up with Speciesism (2004). I have to admit I haven't read either, in part perhaps because I know she takes a dim view of any advocate whom she would view as either "welfarist" or "new speciesist" (and I suspect she would include me, even if it's inaccurate, under both labels), but they're both probably worth a read. Especially the first one as it specifically deals with language.

Unfortunately, I may have made it sound as if I didn't feel the English language is sexist (which it definitely is), but the main focus of this post was how our language is speciesist, so I'm gonna hop on over to your post and talk about the language and gender issue there. :)

veganelder said in reply to have gone vegan...

Actually I have read Ms. Dunayer's first book Animal Equality. I read it some time ago since it is held in the stacks of our local library.

I'm old enough to remember quite well the furor that arose when feminist scholars first raised objections to the sexist structuring (and usage) of the English language. Dr. Penelope's book is much more academic and detailed than Ms. Dunayer's effort. Thanks for the tip though. :-)

veganelder said...

Your post was so stimulating and inspirational that I had to write about it and about this whole language thingee. Thank you. http://veganelder.blogspot.com/2015/08/do-yourself-favor.html

have gone vegan said in reply to veganelder...

Aw, thank YOU! I love it when blog posts can be springboards for others, as yours often are for me. By the way, just the other day I ran across an old word document titled "veganelder's awesome column" which I wanted to respond to in more detail, and plan on still doing sometime. Yes! Very late (the post was back in 2011, snort) but I'm sure I'll be springboarding it at some point. ;)

Have to dash off for now, but will respond to your comment above and to your own blog post in the next day or two.

Hi Friend,

Your posts are so thought provoking and leave me puzzling and puzzling about what I think. But that is a good thing. Carry on!

Language is so important and I focus on it quite often on my website.
The issue of calling others "others" because we consider ourselves to be the norm or superior is an interesting one. We can not do other than come from our own perspective using the limitations of the language we speak, but this does not necessarily mean that we, as individuals, consider our perspective to be the norm or superior. Many do of course and I have been subject to many put downs over the interpretation of a word. The latest was yesterday when I was showing our new home to a male friend of ours.(I use the term loosely) When I showed him "my" office he laughed and said, "Your office? You have a job? All right then." - all said in what was a sarcastic tone. He knows after all these years that when I am silent, I am actually saying to the universe and to him that he is one of the biggest idiots(fill in the blanks: Ass..les) that I know. And I was silent in this instance.

So, he and I greatly dispute the definition of the word job. One does not have to be paid for one's work to have said work be valuable. In fact some of the most valuable work and jobs in my opinion are volunteer. Never mind that his is a double put down. I would bet the farm that my "friend" would never have said this to another man - No sireee bobberoonie.

So, I do have a point and I am going to get to it. I try, to the best of my ability and depending on the context,to choose the correct reference for species other than human. I will use beings, fellow beings, furry companions, non human animals(although less and less now) and sometimes animals when I am including humans in the mix. Dr Will Tuttle often says "fellow mortals" which I kind of like. I never use the word pet anymore and I don't refer to myself as the owner of a pet. Farm animals are farmed animals.

The second part of this equation, which I feel is as important as the language itself, is how I say whatever I am saying. If I use any of the words I choose with reverence and respect then the shortcomings inherent in the word itself become less significant. I deplore the disrespect shown to all species through language and labels, but I do try to inform, educate and encourage people to be more circumspect in their choice of words.

Take care friend.
Anne

Hi Anne, puzzling and puzzling -- thank you for the compliment! :)

That male visitor to your house sounds like an idiot alright. And don't get me started on all the work done by women (most volunteers are women I believe) that's routinely discounted by either being unpaid or underpaid. Our society profits mightily from all the caregiving women do for both children and seniors, most (if not all) of which is unpaid. In fact, any work seen as something women should do tends to automatically be undervalued. This is ridiculous in my opinion, as many women can actually be said to have three shifts of labour: any paid or volunteer work, work within the home or with family, and finally, the work of proving you're female/feminine enough e.g. personal grooming, makeup, etc. Like I said, don't get me started. ;)

I like fellow beings and fellow mortals! And while I sometimes slip and use the term "pet" instead of animal companion, I do make sure to use the term guardian instead of owner.

Your point of using respect and reverence when speaking is a great one, and yes, its importance is probably often overlooked. Thanks for bringing it up. :)